"""born this way"""
"trans people were always their identified gender" - makes it difficult to question one's identity; makes it difficult to treat detransition with nuance (because a detransitioner was *axiomatically* always cis and therefore belonging to a totally different class from people who transition because they're trans)
"trans people become their identified gender by transitioning" - imposes an identity on children that in many cases they fought back against in every way they knew how; implies that your friend who came out to you as trans isn't *really* trans until/unless they pass some arbitrary medical or social milestone to count as having "transitioned"
"trans people become their identified gender, but usually a few years before they do anything about it" - weirdly convenient actually, but shares several of the flaws from the previous two narratives; bizarre and hard to justify
"some trans people become their identified gender, others always were" - probably even better! but this makes a theoretically dubious division of trans people into two categories, and god, do we really need another one of those?
current personal solution: be vague and self-contradictory about whether I was ever a boy
will this help anything? probably not
"trans people become their identified gender by transitioning" - imposes an identity on children that in many cases they fought back against in every way they knew how; implies that your friend who came out to you as trans isn't *really* trans until/unless they pass some arbitrary medical or social milestone to count as having "transitioned"
"trans people become their identified gender, but usually a few years before they do anything about it" - weirdly convenient actually, but shares several of the flaws from the previous two narratives; bizarre and hard to justify
"some trans people become their identified gender, others always were" - probably even better! but this makes a theoretically dubious division of trans people into two categories, and god, do we really need another one of those?
current personal solution: be vague and self-contradictory about whether I was ever a boy
will this help anything? probably not